Cinematographers shine – but in the two materials, I finally saw a real reflection of the dating market today | Elle Hunt star-news.press/wp

S.On Sunday, I took myself, with slight residue, to watch a preview of the materials, the long -awaited film written by Song. Dakota Johnson plays the role of Lucy, the fancy maker with a talent for her close customers with a person who puts a mark on most of their boxes and is also likely to accept them. It is less than Ciopid, and more than market analysts-capable of seeing it by self-refinement in the vocabulary and revolves to assess its actual value-and then match it with a person of equivalent value.

For example, a woman can only hope for thirty average appearance to get a “unicorn”-a 6-feet high profit with his original cap. Unicorn wants the history of the twenties – and they can also get it.

Lucy herself is tense as a result of her job, and practical, after the poor grew up. Her last serious relationship – with John (Chris Evans), ambitious theater/food waiter – has ended – after he confessed, before the anniversary dinner, that he had no $ 25 to pay the parking price.

Lucy has now been resolved to stay celibate or marry rich-and it is preferable to be rich in living. When Harry (Pedro Pascal) dominated it-one of those whose customers are looking for-and returns home with him to his apartment, which is worth millions of dollars, her head is in the middle of the round in the middle of the afternoon, and they are heading to its approximate value.

It is clear that one of the equal examination in Norwich does not count much in terms of market research, but I got the impression – from the recurring and repeated tots, TSKS and tastes around me – that the audience (the older) was dismayed because of these explicit mixtures of romance with financing.

I kept quietly in my seat, and I realized uncomfortable that I was recently watching Romikom showed a copy of the dating and romance that I realized.

It is difficult for celibate persons is a largely recognized fact, and a widespread blame for dating applications. Technology – the current current now for more than a decade – has become unpopular from the dating experience; Even if you don’t use dating applications yourself, you can feel their effect on normalizing shades, for example, or “comfort”.

The materials, written by Song, were inspired by her short work experience as a super maker in New York. But Lucy’s customers, with their review lists, seem to embody consumer logic of applications. Your profile is mainly an advertising plate in which it shows the most marketing and identifying the features you are looking for (and you will not accept it) in others. Beating is an immediate and dual rule, and it evaluates someone as worth (or not) your attention. Your choices look unlimited. Meanwhile, reaching the most sought-after match-the most desirable matches in the algorithm-are increasingly preserved for payment devices.

It is at best a raw way to create a communication, and in the worst capitalist conditions explicitly in a way that contradicts attractiveness, commitment and intimacy. Now, as described by French sociologist Eva Ellus (especially in The end of loveThis excessive approach in the field of self -education succeeded in escaping online to infiltrate all modern love.

You have pushed the years of beating to expect to feel the same immediate reactions that have someone right for them, before they abide by discovery. Meanwhile, the relationship – an endeavor in charge of a culture that gives individuality, freedom and choice – must be presented – returning to investment.

You may not express this matter like Lucy or its customers, but in the air, the unannounced account behind many of our romantic decisions (and even our Platonic clicks: consider the fragile discussion about “the disintegration of friendship” and “high friends”). Illouz describes as “emotional capitalism”, where it follows “emotional life – especially those in the middle classes – the logic of economic relations and exchange.”

What has already given teeth of this clinical slope is inequality in wealth, which leads financial support to a partner-motivating some to find the richest possible. The comparisons with the Jane Austin marriage market are not just quality, but are supported by data. The stagnant salaries and increasing costs mean that if they are not wealth yourself, then the only way to improve your financial conditions – or achieve financial security – is through the relationship.

A recent survey conducted by onefamily financial service provider I found it One in five young men between the ages of 18 and 40 chooses to live with a partner in the first place to make the costs of living more at reasonable prices, “because bills are very high to think about management alone,” said the CEO of one year. Even if you are in a happy relationship, you cannot completely prevent this effect: Do you like your partner, or do you like to pay a 50 % less rent?

Although I am very satisfied, I realize that as a person working for his own account in the struggle, I have the best I have to improve my circumstances, or even change my life, is to find a partner. This does not affect my decisions in dating-but I cannot say that I am not thinking transient, when I meet a nice doctor who has a three-bedroom home in southern London, it would be particularly great if I succeed. (He did not!)

It is naive to believe that we can separate romance and even relationships from financial reality. Against this brutal background, it can be said that financial stability is a proper reason to give priority to searching for love. If this gives us unprecedented or declining, then we must pay for the affordable housing and more financial safety networks and society, so that we can enter into sea relations and separate from love, as much as possible, from financial affairs.

At the present time, the challenge that modern individual faces – as the materialists recognize – is to achieve a balance between pragmatism and idealism, adherence to hope, often and examining brutal reality. “Some people want more” is the movie line. I can not judge anyone on dating for money more than love, when the two are very intertwined. But we may ultimately be better at pressure on more society, instead of our partners.