The decision of the woman not to call his single mom to his friend on his holiday vacation launched a heated discussion online.
In reddit postThe 30-year-old woman explained his situation with her close friend, Sarahah, who fights after separation from his husband. The poster (in / azor__Ahai) and her other friend Lina decided to go on vacation together – only the two of them – but when Sarah found out, she became upset. Since the post was published, he received 4,700 instructions.
“When Sarah found out, she was very upset and told us that he expected him to involve her children, because her closest friends, and she does not have many people to travel to the post. “She also said she was in a difficult situation, she thought it was something we would do for her as her friends.”
The woman offered to take Sarah and her children in a shorter trip, but Sarah rejected that proposal for the benefit of the whole week. Sarah then claimed that he would involve the woman if the roles reversed. Tension has reached breaking, ultimately, when Sarah threatened that friendship might not survive if women did not change their plans.
Ultimately, a woman could not say that this was not her responsibility to ensure that Sarah had someone to travel with, especially when their journey was supposed to break from such responsibilities – and Reddit agreed.
“I don’t understand how that woman thinks he is friendship. Do you expect you to keep you? Are you not allowed to have other friends?” One person wrote.
Another added that the idea of rest without children and family vacations is “completely different beasts”.
“Tell her she’s very welcome to come, but she’s just an adult, so she should organize children for children,” they suggested.
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Expert opinion
Dr. Becky Whetstone, Marriage and Family Therapist and Author from I (I mean) I want to out: What to do when one of you wants to finish your marriageHe said that Sarah was unreasonable that they expect her friends to change vacation plans without his agreement.
“Adults have free will and can do as they, and other adults should honor that,” Whetstone said Newsweek. “A person cannot have the expectations of another without their agreement. A single mom has all kinds of expectations and placed to suffer when others do not play together.”
She pointed out that if Sarah finished friendship for that, it could be a sign of deeper problems.
“If she reviews the relationship because of that, then we can add control over her list of non-functional behavior,” Whetstone added. “Basically, she says this here,” my way or highway. “
Whetstone offered the final advice: “It would be best that friends gave her mother on what they do and why,” she said, but in the end, a single mom should grow up. Her friends have the right to work as they choose. “
Newsweek Reaching at in / Azor__Ahai over Reddit for comment.
2025-02-17 18:29:00
